Wren was talking to me about Rainbows & Drainbows and I have been really working hard to surround myself with Rainbows, but those Drainbows keep coming back…
Recap: Rainbows are people that contribute to a community and society and Drainbows are people who take resources, information and use the people in the community and then leave or just sit back until it is destroyed and gone. They contribute nothing or as little as possible.
I don’t ever want to be a Drainbow and I don’t want my son to learn to be that way. I think it is a sad existence. The hard part I am having is separating myself from these people. I have made giant steps toward it by removing myself from environments that promote this type of lifestyle.
I have met quite a few Attached Parents who are Rainbows, but just as many who are Drianbows and that has been making me feel sad.
They say how much they love Dr. Sears and API, and want to do everything they can to help, but then just take those resources for granted and then never seem to have the time or ability to give back.
I am thankful for those who do give and I am going to make a promise to myself and my son that those are the people I will surround us with.
I find myself getting tense and noticed Ronnie’s been acting out when I am tense around people. I couldn’t ask for a stronger reminder than my pain through my son’s eyes and actions.
